If requested, VA provides a governmental marker or headstone to qualified veterans free of charge. For all deaths occurring before Sept. 11, 2001, the VA may furnish a headstone or marker only for graves that are not marked with a private headstone. Spouses and dependents buried in a private cemetery are not eligible for a government-furnished headstone or marker. For burials in a national cemetery or state veterans cemetery, the office staff will order the headstone or marker on your behalf. For more information and the form needed go to http://www.cem.va.gov/hmm/.